Friday, February 20, 2009

Losing..........Chapter 2

Collateral Damage......That which is incidental to the intended outcome. Usually associtated with battle.

2 of my sons have "found out" about their father. Relationships that had been shakey at best are now a pulverized pile of.......crap. In an effort to reform their father, they have decided to "tough love" him out of his ideology. This consists of not allowing him to see his grandchildren until he "sees the light".

While I do not agree with my husband's thoughts, I also do not agree with these actions of my sons. So I have put my self on restrictions as well. No matter what my husband believes, this does not remove from him his grandfather's heart. I will not see my grandchildren without their grandfather with me.

I asked them did they think this all the way through? What did they think I was going to do about this? My staying with their father does not mean that I support him in his actions. It means that besides obeying scripture, I have a 33 year committment that I do not run out on. Actually it seems now that I am the only person who has not run out on him. Support...I do not get from anyone. What I once got pleasure from has been my choosing I will admit.

Collateral seems in my sons' efforts to win this war they forgot about me. Or do not care.


Grace said...

How sad, Delores.

I see this was written back in Feb. Hope your sons have had a change of heart now. Do they suppose that someone can be blackmailed, or coerced into the kingdom?

Dane Eidson said...

Grace, second to my wife only, you have to be the most amazing woman in the entire world!

Dane Eidson said...

And Amen! But none of us are perfect.

Anonymous said...

I am astounded that your sons won't accept their father as an atheist, but are aparently happy to accept him as a raging homophobe.....there's something wrong with this picture !!!